So yesterday I worked and then met my friend to run. When I got home the kitchen was exactly the same as it was when I left, dirty dishes in the sink, counters not cleaned. I was irritated. I cleaned it up a little and cooked dinner. Irritated the whole time because H and D16 (D13 was sick) do nothing to help.
We sit down to dinner and I say S19 is coming home next weekend. D13 has an overnight tournament which H already said he wasn't going to. H comments about me not being here and S19 having a party, D16 says she'll be here. I say something to H about him being here or where is he going to be and he comments "I'll be floating around." Then says that he is going to visit his "army buddy" who lives about 7 hours away because he's having a hard time. I asked why he doesn't go this weekend, he said "army buddy" is going to TX this weekend. What a bunch of BS. The way he handled he situation leads me to believe he is lying. Later I went out and suggested he go the weekend after he was planning so I don't have to stress about S19 having a party while I'm gone.
So now what, I don't know if I can live with this. I love my husband, and I want my M to work, but I at some point need to be able to live my life fully, and if he is going off to spend Valentines weekend (a year ago he did the same thing after telling me he wanted a D) with someone where does that leave our M? I know DB is for me, to make me a better, happier person and I'm working on that....but not sure these positives I see in our R are really positives toward fixing the M.
Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
