This might sound a bit odd, but does anyone have any tips on giving compliments and words of thanks/appreciation? I realised I am not very good at this and want to make it a 180 but I'm struggling a little in actually doing it, I'm just not used to it.
I always feel a bit embarrassed to receive a compliment and I get a little embarrassed giving them too.
I just gave one compliment though and it felt really good so I want to learn to do it more.
H (who works in IT) was helping me fix my phone, via text, over his lunch break and I realised how nice that was of him, so I texted: Thank you for your help, you’re a really good friend and I really admire how you’re always willing to help your friends out, it’s one of your best qualities. Thank you for helping.
He replied: That is very nice of you to say that. Thank you I really don't mind helping you though
It felt really good (and not just because he said something nice back). I realise I rarely point out H's good qualities or give him REALLY heartfelt thanks. But I don't even really know how to start giving out more compliments...?
ETA: It's not just with H. In my job, I manage a team, and I always say good job and try to encourage them, but when it comes down to performance reviews and giving a longer form compliment (especially face to face) I just feel SO awkward and find myself mumbling or looking at the floor and I've no idea why.
Last edited by susana4; 02/04/1502:08 PM.
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
