My waking nightmare

[Lorelai]

Good morning, DBers! Up with my morning coffee getting some work done before the kiddos wake. Had a teeny-tiny, minuscule accomplishment yesterday. One of the things that's made H angry throughout the S is that every time we're discussing an issue that comes up with the kids, I bring up that the S is probably affecting them. So yesterday I kept my GIGANTIC mouth shut while he talked about S4's eating habits and how he hasn't been eating when he goes to Grandma's and how he needs to eat more real food. I do know that he likes "family dinners" with all of us around the table, and H promised when he started bomb dropping that if we ever S he would be here for dinner, but I didn't bring any of that up. The only thing I said, and this probably wasn't validating, was "you're right, I bought some stuff while I was at the store today to make a bigger dinner tomorrow night that I'm sure S4 will like. I've been thinking about this too." Need to study the validation cheat sheet b/c I'm not sure I'm using the right words, but still, at least I didn't point out that I think S4 is having anxiety about H not being here and would probably eat better if we all sat down together. H doesn't want to hear that right now and so there's no point in saying it and starting a fight.