Edz, just answering your question from your thread.
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I think mate its a tricky one to isolate marriage - the feeling and closeness, the partnership and warmth with the partner and the person.
Even if the person isnt someone we want we may want the feeling and (as seems to be the case with my w) vice versa.
Absolutely keep db going, whether we d or reconcile I'll keep the process ongoing as its made such positive changes to who I am going forward.
You know from my threads I had similar moments of understanding. Lots has been wrong for a long time, none of it changes what I own but w brought problems as well and our communication (or lack of it) did the rest. The question now is I know I've grown and changed and am better for it, can w change those issues she has (or even want to) and do we rebuild from here or call it quits.
Sadly takes two to tango on this one. I'm waiting for the music to start..
Hang in there and let us know on the SIL pushing
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
