Edz, just answering your question from your thread.

Yes some heavy thinking and feeling introspective. Not unusual for me.

I guess that I've been pretty unhappy with my relationship with my wife for several years now. And through my choices I allowed that to perpetuate and accept scraps of affection rather than face the issues. (Taking responsibility for my own happiness).

My wife is done, everything about her words and actions tells me that. I can't even interact with her at the moment as everything is being made into a battle - that post redirection, there was no need for that and no thought of the consequences. Even when I point them out, and they aren't unreasonable, she will assume I'm deliberately being difficult and abusive.

So I just don't see a way back, and I'm not sure that someone who has that much of a victim mentality is someone I want TI be with. There is more joy to be had in life.

I still love her and want my marriage and my family, but the only thing standing for it seems to do is prolong my hurt.

I will keep DB'g because I am growing as a person. I recognise this ^^^^^ lot for starters and know that some if this is because I'm hurt and lonely. But I'm a rational person and that rational part is saying it's time to move on.

Extra push just received from SIL by the way. I'll explain later as I want some scripting help.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress