W has always hated "games" so sometimes its tricky. I run "my" dB for me nowadays. If w notices something great if she asks I'll explain something mostly. If she feels manipulated it won't end well so I won't do anything thats for an appearance sake for her (bar fake it till you make it in the early days but that was more to break my addiction to moping around after her and has been replaced now)

I can't (really) read her mind and won't (guess) mind read but I'd love to know where she truly wants to go, is she looking to save me as a friend and d (which I boundried - I can't do that for me, it won't impact s if we friendly coparent and I would need to emotionally move on in that case)

Or is she looking for a way back in (knowing w without seeming to have to back down from her decision - she not I would think that) or as is most likely she just doesn't know what she wants to do and is just continuing on her 24/7 time with s and only thinking about the rest and "thing" at those times I have s.

I know she was in a situation where she hasn't told all her friends we'd s only realised that from some responses I'd had on fb. Mine know but I havent acted to correct hers as it felt invasive and possibly awkward for s if it came up while he was on a play date. Dont know if thats changed, I know we posted separate snow pics on fb and I dropped her an email asking was that going to pose her any awkward questions (they are of obviously different houses at 7am) she replied she hadn't given it a thought.

So confusion reigns...

Last edited by edz; 02/04/15 09:24 AM.

M:44, W:46, S:10
M 13 years, T 15
BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
My new place: 21/11/2014
W/S back to flat 22/11/2014
W coming closer, talking 4/2015
Piecing 5/2015
Moving in again 6/2015