You give a lot of thought to what other people might think. Have you thought about the message you might be sending to your kids? That its better to be quiet and not be treated fairly so that other people won't be upset?
There's a difference between scorching the earth by quibbling over every detail and the dignity of expecting and fighting for what you have earned in over 20 years of marriage. If your daughter ends up in the same position 25 years from now - what advice would you give her? Hold the peace? Or recognize your value?
Please don't let your fear of what other people might mistakenly think effect the quality of your life and financial well being. You are worth more than other people's opinions.
