Hi mighty, So sorry to here what is going down. Believe me I also just want to shake my stbxw often! I hate to say it but I did try and warn you this was a big possibility. In fact, I'm not surprised by it. You knew better than to pursue, hww never stopped. He may say how much he "hates" it but he's actually addicted to it! It makes him feel wanted and like he isn't the a$$hole he deep inside knows he is.
When he was with hww he felt the "pressure" so ran from it. He ran to the familiar, you and family he has hurt so badly. Then of course he started to feel the pressure there and what did he do? Ran back to hww. You are not damaged HE IS! Stop thinking anything he says matters because you can't believe a word.
At least you know now he isn't close to ready to have any kind of healthy r with anyone. Hang in there. You will be fine and know what you need to do.
