Yes I have read the books. No I'm not in councilling . I don't have any money for councilling . You guys on here are my counselling. As far as telling my freind at work, he has never met nor knows my wife. He is a trusted colleague. I told him what had gone on the day after bd. I was in a complete daze. He took me for a coffee gave me his ear. What was said the other day was just male joking. I'm pretty crude and lude in general. It was purely just a joke between us and made me laugh for a moment. Obviously no way would I send anything to anyone that would be disrespectful to my wife and family. My upmost thought is to protect my daughter from this. At weekend with my best friends I've known for 35 years I didn't say what had gone on. Just that we were seperating. I'm not an innocent party. I also cheated 1 night stand no sex. My 2 best friends know about this but don't judge. When wife found out about my faults she text a mutual friend asking about this girl. I was angry about that as paints me to be the only bad guy. I haven't said anything about that though. I'm not here to score points off her. I'm not sharing the story. That is for her to do if she so wishes. If she does have a normal relationship with OM it will be pretty obvious anyway what has gone on. Doesn't take a genius to work that out. My dad knows but he guessed months ago after seeing fb pics. He asked me at the time.
Mind reading....yes I'll give you that even though I do believe she was looking for sympathy. I can't know for sure is what you're saying.
Yes she is opening up about her reality. It's hard to hear it though as her reality is completely skewed. She is in fantasy land. I didn't comment on what she said as I didn't know what to say really. " yes it will all be great you just carry on dear" I just want to shake her and say wtf are you doing. Please wake up. I know if this was someone else she would be mortified by their behaviour.
Communication skills......well that's why we're at this point because they are lacking in both of us. I think this is key to why most people end up in this situation. Can I reestablish them....well not at the moment. She is done with me and to be honest I'm done with her for now. I'm living in a daze with a wife who sees me as only her best friend and thinks it can all stay that way. For my sanity it can't. I need to move on. Get some space. Get the person I was when we met back. Not to impress the wife but because I was a much more confident outgoing person back then. I think over the last few years with our role reversal I've let my wife walk all over me and treat me with disrespect as all she sees is a less ambitious generally stay at home dad. Compared to other man who physically is not her type at all but together they are running a succeful business built from scatch. Both emotionally going through a tough time. Easy to see which she finds more attractive.
I appreciate your advice, from all of you. It's all that keeps me sain At the moment.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
