I'm glad you are playing "fair", but you were the one that moved out last time...things are a bit different this time around. We'll see how his move plays out and whether or not his personality changes even more.
Until that time, try to be more aware of your surroundings and jot down the things that disappear. They don't have to be expensive items, but it's always good to know what they take so that you will know what you need to replace at some point.
I hope and pray that I am wrong about your h and his move.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
