Sorry I have posted twice not realising this was moderated and just thought I didn't post right heres the other post that might help http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...758#Post2533758 I am in Australia so there are no separation agreements. We had a fight 5 months ago and I was still off my rocker at the time, I did threaten to leave and I know those words hurt him badly, they were said out of a place of fear, I feared he didn't love me anymore and I was testing him in my own stupid way to see if he did, if only I could take that day back, was only a matter of a month after that fight that the effects of my contraception pill had started to wear off fully and I was back to me.