I just continue to struggle with how to make the sincere changes I should have made long ago, putting him first in my life, while stopping the chase. I guess it is about doing what I need to do for him, without having any expectations of how he will react? Doing things for him because it is the right thing to do, not because it will make him want to stay?
Credit to you for being honest with us, and not telling us what we want to hear.
These changes are not for him. These changes are for you. At the end of the day, no matter what happens in your sitch, you still have a life to live with or without your H.
That’s why it is important to GAL. It helps with detachment, and expectations. It helps get you to your happy place. Happy is attractive.
Were you happy before you got to this difficult place? Can you look back in your life and identify when you were happiest as an adult? Ultimately, we are all responsible for our own happiness.
Fix what is yours to fix. That is within your control.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
