Gogofo, thank you for your input. I am sorry your wife has filed. I know you must feel so defeated. I appreciate your words of warning. I will be praying for you and your sons.
I know I need to slow down. You and LITB are right, my changes are in an effort to change his mind, which is manipulative. I do want the changes for myself, but if I am honest my main motivation is to try to stop the divorce. I had a major breakdown on my drive home from work yesterday afternoon where I just really let it all out. I have felt so torn up about not knowing what my husband is feeling/thinking, and then I realized that I do know. I just don't want to come to terms with it. He wants to move out. And I have to make my peace with it. Like Cadet said, he is giving me the gift of time. I just have to have the patience and endurance to survive this time, and use it to make myself someone he would even want to be married to. I really liked that thread you shared gogofo. I just continue to struggle with how to make the sincere changes I should have made long ago, putting him first in my life, while stopping the chase. I guess it is about doing what I need to do for him, without having any expectations of how he will react? Doing things for him because it is the right thing to do, not because it will make him want to stay?
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Me:30 H:31 D1 T: 7 years M: 3.5 years BD: 12/2014 3 month S starts: 2/2015
