123Gwen- hang in there! The cycling is awful but each round gets you further away from the drama. I don't think we could have avoided this tragedy ( I used to think so/ being the great fixer that I am). This was going to happen no matter what. And really.... I think the tragedy was them never dealing with their baggage and carrying around weighing them further and further down. I remember a few years before BD noticing my STBX was very restless. I tried to give him some books to read and suggested counseling but he wasn't ready at the time. What's happening now has to be the way it is for them to get through the crisis.
Hang in there- you've got the right idea it just takes time- which I know is frustrating.
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
