Post retreat situation

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The advice I got from the retreat people was, "Continue to do your part. Dialogue everyday and if he is not willing to reciprocate, at least present your letter to him every night.

You attend the Post sessions even if he doesn't and make sure he knows ahead of time that you are going. With you showing how important the program is to you, God can use that to poke at his heart."

Thoughts? Is this a total mistake?

I have to say that I don't think it is a good idea. You place a significant amount of pressure on your H. He knows what you want. No need to keep reminding him.

Also, you are placing a lot of expectations on him. He went to the weekend with you. Now you expect him to attend every post session with you. When he told you no, you came away disappointed and hurt.

I suggest to keep dialoguing for yourself. If/When he chooses to join you, then would be a good time to share. Otherwise, let it be.

Also, keep a journal on your feelings and observations. Keeping a journal helped me tremendously.

You have to be patient. This isn't going to change as quickly as you hope.

This is what I believe your H is thinking...the "changes" you are making, are a ploy to make him change his mind. Why do I think that? Because your changes seem that way to me. Maybe I am wrong, just the feeling I get.

Your changes have to be sincere, and consistent over a long period of time. That's when they are believable.