'Experiment kindness' report- although it did get W to open up (through text), this past weekend's text exchange with her leads me to believe she thought I've only been doing it to 'control' her. The tipping point was that I had made dinner one night last week and had too much (picky kids) so asked if she wanted me to bring her some. Because she had made a comment about barely being able to feed herself a few days early, I suppose it came across as trying to provide for her. Bad timing, so I'm backing off.
We actually had a long text conversation on Sunday. I found it funny that she thought that if I truly cared about her and wanted to be nice, I'd help her figure out her financial situation, yet by doing so, wouldn't I come across as controlling?? I offered to help if she wanted to discuss, but she didn't take me up on it. I made sure to exhibit patience in my responses as to avoid saying something I'd regret later.
At one point I asked W if she wanted to stick around to discuss the kids schedule after she dropped the kids off (she continues to avoid because she knows they're getting tired of staying at her place). She said she couldn't because she was taking dinner to her friend that just had a baby (worked with at the vet's and how she met OM) and then was headed to her BFF's family's house to watch the Super Bowl. Later in the evening S15 mentioned going to that party, so I asked W if she could pick him up on the way there. She responded that she was happy having a baby in her lap and probably wasn't leaving. I didn't respond. Later she sends me a pic of the baby. Now, seeing that she met OM through this friend, W knows that I don't care for her, so why send me a pic of her baby?! I was tempted to respond with 'surprised it didn't come out with horns', but thought better of it and just responded that 'it's been a while since ours were that young.' I'm not sure if she sent the pic to prove that's where she was? Just seemed weird. And was it just a coincidence that she took them dinner on the day of the Super Bowl or were they hosting a party, that I'm sure OM was at? Doesn't matter- I'm done worrying about it and throwing it in her face.
On a GAL note- my younger brother invited me to a 3 day weekend in the woods next month with him, his girlfriend, 2 other couples (I know the guys) and his girlfriend's single friend. He's not the type that would try to 'set' me up, so I don't think it's that type of situation, but it may seem awkward- 3 couples, her and I. As much as I miss a physical/emotional R with someone (16+ mos is getting to me), I want to say I did all the right things and leave the M knowing I didn't step outside. I'm planning on going- it's about a 7 hr drive for me (closer for them), but will be fun to get away and relax.
