MLCer and EA w/ OW

[BklynMom]

I struggle so much with the morning routine. These are the things that have worked for me and made me not be a crazy yeller in the morning.

1. My top priority is not to yell and not what time they get to school.

2. I let them show up a few minutes late a couple of months ago. That got my D6 inline with helping in the morning she did not like being late. She gets dressed, brushes her teeth, shoes and coat on when I ask because she was late once and does not want to be late again. She also knows that I will not yell and scream to get her to school on time, if she doesn't cooperate she will be late.

This fear of being late is not effective at all on my D4 but I am more able to deal with her difficulties since D6 is ready to go. D4 is a constant struggle but I have more energy for it and I don't lose my cool. My big punishment with D4 is taking away playdates. She hates that. Its also a much easier thing for me to stick to versus taking away all screen time.

2. I get up earlier. We don't need to leave the house until 8:10 but I am up at 6. The more time I have in the morning to organize and be ready the less likely I am to lose it on them.

You have 3 kids that you are getting off to school alone!! hello ... that is impossible. Go easy on yourself. Your kids will forgive you and maybe you can use it as an opportunity to talk to them later in the day about how when Mommys make mistakes they can apologize.

And yes I totally agree with you the MLCer is a new person. New mannerisms everything.

Don't live in the future live in the now, right now she is still away.