You need to really look around your home because there will be more missing than you think. They come in and take whatever is in sight. There is no rhyme or reason for what they take. I know someone, from this forum, that had a little boy and he had a cut little table and chair he used as a desk in his room. Guess what! He took the chair. Now, keep in mind, he couldn't sit on it w/o breaking it because it was a child's chair.
JeanS who use to post here came home one day and found the steps to the shed gone. They did reconcile a few years later, but the steps never returned.
My xh came by one day and took hand lotion that I had just purchased. I sent him an email and advised him that I didn't appreciate him taking the lotion when I had just purchased it and would like to have it back. That in the future, you ask, you don't take things. Sure enough, the lotion was on my porch the next day.
To answer your question about moving things around...you are fine. It's your home while he's out to lunch.
Yes, you will see changes in his behavior from now until his crisis is over. You didn't see them the last time because he wasn't the one leaving the nest. He is changing into the bratty kid who feel entitled.
Please be sure you put any valuables that you treasure in a locked place for a while. Also, don't leave money lying around. Some of these guys will take anything and everything. Don't be surprised if food starts disappearing. I had that happen too. You can't trust them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
