Hi SRD, sorry you're not feeling well. It's not a case of being tougher, it's about not absolving her of blame - purely validating.

You replied to your W, saying it wasn't due to that - but you could merely have validated as Mr B suggests. Have you seen Wonkas validation cheat sheet? These are the kind of replies to make.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus