While I know what people are getting at in their threads I have to agree with MrBond above. You can only 100% definitely change you, your actions, comments and even the way you think and react to things. Nothing else. But if you can master changing those, really changing those, you can change a lot.
It doesn't guarantee ever being able to get your w to change or even necessarily notice let alone change (nothing can guarantee that bar her) but, boy, will it make it easier to live life as you if you're not consumed by it all and you continue as the new improved and shiny LMW.
Hang in there.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015