Old dog seeks new trick 8

[gan]

Paging Vanilla! See discussion above.

Old Dog, Vanilla has done an excellent job laying down her boundaries and sticking to them. They are basically your rules - things you will and won't tolerate - and actions you will take in the event they are breached (mostly to protect yourself). So one could be (for example) W cannot spend joint monies to fund activities with OM. I'm sure others will chime in soon enough.

Financials - totally get where you are coming from but think it is likely to go south again if you say it like that. Let's see if others can help with how to phrase it. (I had the opposite situation - H wanted to spilt funds immediately, which felt like a devastating blow at the time by now I am thankful).