uRWorthy, thanks for sharing that with me...I truly truly admire that. 3 years, I cant even imagine...I've said this to both you and T2, that THAT is what I want to be able to say and do. For me and also my M. That at the end of the day, I also will have acted with dignity and strength and did everything I possibly could to give my M my all. I too believe that this is a journey that I was meant to go on, hopefully it saves my M, but in the end, I have learned more about me, and M in general then I ever would have.
-------- Just sharing something and really just writing it down so I don't forget, but my W brought up our M tonight. And not in a bad way. First time she has brought it up in 4 months.
I get a text from her around 10pm, saying she cant sleep. We joke around a little bit, and then she says
W: I realized something about M today. The only way you are going to continue to do things for the other person and want to make them happy is if you continue to do the things that make them happy. I guess when I never pick up my clothes or clean up my messes, I took you for granted. And you stopped doing all the nice considerate things you used to do for me. And we both got used to how things were going and nothing good kept happening.
I paraphrased that a little, she sent a huge blurb that I didnt feel necessary to write. I validated, and shared that the reason I stopped doing the small stuff was not because I didnt care, but because I got focused on "providing/taking care of my W" when I didnt realize that she didnt want to be taken care of, she just wanted the attention and considerate things that I used to do.
That marriage talk didnt last long, but still felt it was a decent convo, first one we've had...and I didnt even bring it up. My takeaway from this? Sounds like she realizes it takes 2 to tango...thoughts?
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ME: 28 W: 24 M: 2.5yrs T: 5yrs BD: 22 SEP 14 W Leaves: 5 OCT 14
