Help! I'm trying to be patient but feel like I'm giving too much of myself. Do I stop doing anything for him? That doesn't feel right to me, but at the same time am I making it too easy for him?

Admittedly I'm a little frustrated because I feel like the texting has started or the hiding of it has stopped again (can't prove it and trying to "act as if" he's not texting OP). Didn't do a very good job hiding my irritation about that today, although not sure he even noticed.

We spent most of the weekend together at D13's tournament. He had already asked if I could go to his Dr appt with him today because they suggested he have somebody to drive him home afterwards. We are spending so much time together "as a family" and he is even opening up to me about stuff but yet we are still in this same place in our M.

I'm just not sure what to do, my mind is saying I need to tell him I can't continue to live like this anymore but am not ready for what he might say and my heart is telling me to keep holding on. On one hand I see many positives in our interactions, on the other nothing has changed.


Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since