Jefe - The Beginnings of Courting - #9

[PeterV2]

Hi Jefe, it's good to see your progress.

I get the feeling your W is conflicted with her past mistakes, i.e. the A. She's beating herself up over it.

Well my life in general su¢ks besides the girls, my mom, and you...
...It's consequences of my actions in general. Nothing specific.

My W says similar things, except for actually admitting it was the consequences of her actions. It's remorse cloaked in a veil of self-deprecation. They won't come right and say they're remorseful but they're thinking how they've dishonored themselves and their marriage.

At least that's my take on it. Maybe Sandi could chime in here, as she was a WAW who came back and obviously had these same feelings at some point along the zigzag way back.

Yeah, it's not a straight line back. It zigzags. There'll be good days and setbacks. At least that's what MWD says. And I agree completely. It's just part of the program and once you're aware that's how it goes, it's easier to take when the setbacks happen. Just have to take it in stride and know that tomorrow or the day after things will be on the upswing again.