The END Hopefully they live happily ever after....

[DFE]

I haven't seen him in about 3 weeks. He picks the kids up from the garage and drops them off without coming in. I've managed to avoid him except for a run in at work about 3 weeks ago I've been told the loneliness has gotten to him and that he told a mutual friend that he now appreciates and understands everything I used to do.

[MrBond]

Do the two of you talk about the kids even if its without seeing each other physically?

[DFE]

We will email or text if needed. He's ok with being friendly with me but I made the decision to cut contact.

He came by the house twice and plowed the snow without me being there. I don't understand why. Guilt? Habit? It's just confusing me.

[MrBond]

You know how confused those in MLC are. Sounds like he's going through Replay. But there's no point in trying to figure it out when he probably doesn't even know. He's losing control over you so that's why he's doing what he's doing.

[DFE]

So do I continue to decline his invites? He has the kids on Valentine's Day and I suspect he may ask me to join them for dinner. I was going to say I had plans already. I'm tired of playing games and don't see a reason for us to have dinner or hang out with the kids. If our relationship is over then it's over. I suspect he wants to test the waters to see if he feels a spark but i can't be myself not knowing why I'm there.

[MrBond]

Yes continue to decline. Especially if you're fed up with all of the back and forth. If he's seriously wanting to get back together, he will have to earn you back. And right now you want nothing to do with him.

[DFE]

So he did it again. Asked me to dinner tonight.. It's his night with the kids. I declined again saying I had dinner plans. He came by the house to get the kids clothes and I "ran into"him. I was dressed up and getting ready to leave. He said again if you get back early join us. He's been texting me about work all day. We work together but he just started texting me again. It's messing with my head and taking everything out of me to not ask him why. I know he will say something like its good for the kids but I want to say would you still think that if I was seeing someone else.

I had gotten off the roller coaster but this messes with my head. It doesn't help that I still love him and want my kids to have a family. Advice? Thoughts? Words of encouragement ?

[MrBond]

Hang in there. It all goes through your goal of getting things back together, but the RIGHT way. He sees you GAL. Let it grate on him.

[DFE]

He text me right before dinner to say something about the kids. I took that opportunity to tell him I was still at dinner and wouldn't make it back in time. I said I would get home as soon as possible to relieve him. He said no hurry take your time. I got home and he had taken the boys to my house.

I walked in looking my best and very dolled up and said hi very casually. I haven't done that in months. Then he said good night to the boys and to me and left.

A couple of hours later he text me about a card our son had made for him. Then he said you looked great tonight and it was great seeing you. What is that all about? It's cruel because it messes with my head. I'm trying to not give it any thought. I've got to admit it's put me in a slightly good mood!!!

[DFE]

I was doing so well or so I thought. I was trying to move on. I was detaching and getting on with my life. Then he starts asking me to dinner with him and the kids. It happened again yesterday. I declined but it gives me anxiety. I'm back to having anxiety daily and trouble sleeping. What makes a WAS start contacting the very person they couldn't wait to get so far away from? Don't they know it confuses the left behind spouse? Although I know it means nothing for our relationship it still confuses me.

I know my old marriage is over but I can't help but hope a new relationship can be created. Then he asks me out a few times and he is all I can think about. I find myself on the couch lacking energy. I know he isn't doing it to be cruel but I'm getting fed up. I may accept next time just to tell him face to face that he needs to stop and that I've moved on. Will it ever end? I'm tired.