I am going to interject here. No one more than Mza has had more 2x4s over his sitch. There are some interchanges between Mza and Wonka where Wonka was explaining to Mza how she evaluated his sitch. Mza after an internal personal struggle and some strong words took Wonka advice on board and started to grow. Mza knows more than any one that to reach a DBer often requires a forceful post. in truth I can not see this care he has as rude, forceful absolutely. This is a crossroad C and often we resist that which we most need to learn. Mza is the messenger heed his words, the message he gives.
T, I know why you say what you do but please read Mza thread.
Often the things we most need to face are the hardest to accept and Mza is acting with great forbearance when he asks you to consider why you have your H sensitive feelings to look after. He is making his point directly.
I do support Mza in his views C, let this H grow up. You can not talk him out of his crisis, take responsibility for his job, compete with his controlling mother or support him into his living arrangements. This is not your job, H has much work to be himself. Let him. C you have accepted that you are controlling, leave H alone to lie in the bed he just made.
C you have enough to concentrate on C and her sitch.
This is the core of the advice we have all been giving you. the rest is noise.
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 02/02/1511:44 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW