Have people been here before? Has anyone had similar things happen like this? Linda I know you and I seem to be sharing similarities in our sitch, any thoughts? Also I'm still struggling with what her moving out really means... is it the end? Does it support the DBing stance?
Yes seen this before many times
THE END actually is in YOUR hands, YOU DECIDE. I used to say the end is when they put YOU in a box. Why you might ask? Because YES this is part of the SCRIPT and their CRISIS can not continue until the marriage is destroyed.
SO YES DB'ing supports what you are doing, I do agree that you should let her do the work on her own. Why should you help her destroy your marriage? She is perfectly capable of doing it all by herself.
Once she moves out it will be easier to have better boundaries.
DIVORCE is actually one of the ultimate BOUNDARIES.
So I understand that you want to help her, you have probably always helped her throughout your marriage. Dont you think a 180 would be just to LET GO?
