That's such a hurtful and inappropriate thing to say about your D.

I can understand that she may struggle with her feelings towards your D. Particularly if your D is very like her Dad, and you aren't top of the list of your W's favourite people just now.

But if I was feeling that way, I think I'd be trying to process it internally, or saying I had some negative feelings towards her right now as she's so like her Dad....and I need to deal with that.

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus