Thank you, mleigh. We are going through very similar emotions. I am down to 98 lbs and the stress is taking its toll on me. I was doing OK all of last year but within the last couple of weeks, have not been sleeping or eating well and don't have the energy to go out and live life.
For me, the most difficult thing to deal with is not knowing when this will all end. I am in limbo and I am suffering because of it. What I need the most now is closure. I see one of three things happening: 1. he snaps out of it now and wakes up and reattaches to me and the family (not likely) 2. he remains in this 'fog' working on his own issues but unknown when it will end 3. we end it by calling it quits
Option 1 is out, I'm left with options 2 & 3. Regards to options 2, we've been at this for the last year + and if I saw signs of improvement or signs that he is heading in the right direction, then I think I can wait it out. But that hasn't happened. To the contrary, it's gotten worse week by week such that he is living in a hotel on the weekends and leaving his family alone at home. That leaves option 3.
I feel sad for my children. I had considered separating a couple of months ago and I talked with h about it. He said he didn't want to but in the last couple of months, I think he's warmed up to the idea. I'm afraid of separation because of my children and my fear of being alone. But I"m the only responsible parent left for my kids and I've got to stay healthy mentally and physically for them. Being in limbo is taking its toll on me...this cannot be good for the kids? Need advice....
