Is your Pastor going to speak with your wife? If she's still attending church doesn't he have a duty to implement church discipline??
Jesus didn't point to the woman at the well and say "there's a good woman, she is just lost right now", no instead he went up to her and told her to "go and sin no more".
It's the least understood and hardest part of a Pastor's job but he's got a flock to protect and a woman (your wife) that needs help and a lifeline.
As far as dating, you're still married and modeling appropriate behavior for married persons to you young children. If you date your kids will have 2 parents that know and understand very little about the marriage covenant. Your vows before God and family remain...until the don't. You have a biblical out, either take it and divorce or wait and see if you can reconcile without breaking your vows. YMMV.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
