Good Morning RysinMn, I have been following your thread and I am sorry you have to deal with your sitch. When I was where you are, I experienced the same onslaught of emotions. Here are some of the actions I took to ease my mind: If we have common friends, I asked them to not bring M or W. I stopped following her on social media. I kept conversations with W brief. These simple actions, over time, helped sooth the idea I no longer have a W.
Having that mindset, GAL was easier. Getting to a confident version of yourself requires you to want to be that person and I found that there is no faster way to being that guy than wanting to be attractive to someone new. I am not condoning having an A of your own, but there is something to be said to having that feeling again when you want to be in the chase again. GAL and having that mindset will make all the tools you will learn here easier to execute. Let the A your W is having play out. In the meantime, I will suggest you use this time to grow, get to know your self and figure out what you want for you.
We all love our Ws or we would not be here. However, if the M is going to end, we need make sure to become the person she will regret to had let slip away.
It will be a hard road. It will take time. You will have setbacks. Most importantly, have an outlet.
Good Luck.
Last edited by hjoseph; 02/02/1503:13 PM.
Me:28 W:24 M:4 years S5, SS5, S2 Separated: 07/01/14 Asked for D 1/09/15
