Jim0987 #11 - Mk8's user manual needs some work

[jim0987]

So i've had just under 2 weeks of actual seperation now and although its not been zero contact its been very low contact.

since dropping the kids of at nursery on thursday I had a brief logistics text message exchange on sunday about the kids swimming then saw my wife for two short handovers. her messages seemed cold, I'm still trying to be pleasant and friendly (like saying good morning) but i take mozza's point.

I did get two hours or so with S1 on sunday and it was brilliant - he was in a great little mood and just wanted to play (and he gives the best hugs). I only saw D3 for a couple of minutes but got lovely hugs and kisses from her as well.

At the handover she was very brief and when i dropped S1 she was keen to get rid of me. the sum total of what she said to me was 'here is D3's Swimming stuff' and 'D3 come say goodbye to Daddy' and a couple of other comments which roughly translated as 'please leave now'

Her mum was up staying with my W but didnt say anything or acknowledge I was there at first until I stuck my head round the corner and said hello and wished her well for her upcoming operation.

So not much interaction but if anything I would say she seems even more angry (at me?) than she did before. All the non-verbals suggested this and the verbals seemed desperate for me to go. I was there maybe 5 minutes max. most of which was having a quick cuddle and chat with D3.

On non W related front, my exercise plans are still dented due to not yet healed foot issues but I am doing Yoga everyday (15 to 20 mins). Also using the Headspace app most days which i find very calming for my mind even if i'm not present in the moment enough yet

I assembled my new lounge furniture and bought some lamps to make my lounge feel nice and homely and overall the house is coming along. I'm going to pick up some blank canvases on my way home so that i can do hand and footprints with the kids on wednesday.

little bits of sorting here and there and slowly i'm getting organised into my new living arrangements though i did get lazy and just spent yesterday afternoon on my xbox.

I've also done a whole bunch of home cooking so my freezer is filled with portions of stuff thats all delicious. Finances are substantially tighter than they were so need to get a bit more savvy with my shopping habits - its more about restoring old habits though than learning new ones.

So all in all i'm doing pretty good. Its just, as ganb8te said on her thread, i missing someone to share life's adventures with.

The question of the day though is should i be no contact (except emergencies and logistics) or should i try to keep a warm channel of communication with my W open as in friendly texts and nice messages about what the kids have been doing?

Its worth saying I've no idea whats happening with OM1 but i got the sense over christmas that had cooled somewhat (on his end again)