So, what is your plan? You need one, ya know. I suggest you get serious about some 180's on yourself and stop with the control issues.
I was actually hoping to get some advice on what my plan should be from you helpful folks.
1. I have 180'd my control and reactivity around her. If she wants to do something I am generally 'fine' with it (so not over enthusiasticaly fake, but supportive). On the other hand, if she wants to do something that I cant agree on no matter how much I bend, I will be sure to softly 'complain' and state the reason why. Careful to never jump down to contempt, etc. No yelling, no storming out.
What other things should I be doing? I am practicing gratitude and projecting positivity when I am around her (super easy to do when I am playing with my son which is so life-affirming). But other than that, not sure. Clearly the 'fish under the table' needs to be addressed, but addressing it just leads to stonewalling. And not addressing it will eventually give rise to a convo about it when she brings it up.
GAL - I have cut back on social visits (seeing how me being out with the guys got me into this mess) so not sure me cutting her loose to go and be social every night is a great idea.
