Ganb8te- pecan you recommend the book in a way that won't get your post edited? --- Honest question time. Would love everyone's feedback. At what point do you accept your spouse's "I don't want to work on this/be married/be with you." As truth and just, for lack of better words, just set them free?
Mmm pecans ....
The book was PM by David Schnarch. Lots more in there than what I am referring to above but Section 3 gave me a good framework for thinking about my own self-development in all this mess, as well as my approach to my next R. Good work-on-me companion to DR. Beware the graphic language!
As for your question above, I pondered this early on, too. At some point I realised that the answer didn't matter. I would be doing the same thing regardless of whether I accepted it or no, which is to say: self-soothe, confront my own issues, GAL. That's where your focus should be right now - moving yourself forward (not on necessarily, but forward).
Yes, I think you should go dark. Contact didn't serve you well, wouldn't you agree?
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
