Hi mleigh,
You sound like you are doing well. I can relate about how your H never wanted to be involved in the things that you and S were doing. I got the same from W the years leading up to B-day when she was entering MLC. For her she was always too tired to do anything. In the year before she left she would start saying it was time to get ready for bed earlier and earlier. Some days it started as early as 7:00 PM with her saying she was just so tired and wanted to get ready for bed and since she was sleeping in the living room on the couch, that meant everyone had go to separate rooms. It was ridiculous.

Have you thought about how you and H want to split custody? For W and I we are 50/50 with me having D15 one week, her the next. Since she moved 30 miles away and put D15 in a school across the street from her, it isn't easy on D15 or me. I swear the court shouldn't allow a S to move that far with a child if you are doing 50/50.

For what it's worth, I don't think your H is spending any nights with any "skanks", at least not yet. I have seen how they get all excited when they are first moving and I really think he is just feeling like a kid who is moving away from home for the first time. I also wouldn't expect him to remember any plans they may make like going out to dinner Sunday night. They tend to get caught up in the "new house" and forget everything else.

Be careful with the "empathy" thing. Your H's R with S is really up to him and while you may want to try and help him and S to spend time together or have a closer R, the best thing to do, IMO, is just let the two of them work things out. He will need to learn that he can't wait until 6:30 and ask S to come over. He needs to make an effort and plan time together.

You are just at the start of the new living arrangement between the 2 of you. I will tell you that it will be better once he is out and moved. Living with my W while she was in full MLC was much harder. It is much easier to detach once they are gone and you can stop the walking on egg shells and wondering what will happen next. Believe me, I've been there. Use this time apart to work on you and start being the person YOU want to be without worrying about what H thinks. You've got this!!