WAW Dating - Oh noes!!..

[LoveMyW]

New spew ahead!!.. W is now peeved that I am calling her by her first name in texts etc!!.. Grabbing at straws??..

Well I'm in a rock and a hard place regarding the offer that was put to me about sharing of the kids..

I've had a chance to think objectively about it over the last 24 hours and I'm really not sure which path to take.. Something that swayed me to being indecisive on it was a couple of comments W made that at the time didn't really mean anything then, but looking back could be something..

The 2 comments made were "I have them all week" and "I have to ask XYZ to borrow some money"..

Unrelated in the conversation (they were at 2 different times on different subjects) but enough to make me look at the bigger picture..

Just to clarify the current sharing agreement, I have them from afternoon Friday, to Monday morning every other week, and Sunday morning to Monday morning on the alternate weeks.. The offered arrangement is afternoon Friday to Monday morning every week.. As mentioned previously, my hours don't really fit well with a week on-week off arrangement..

Now, part of me is saying "Heck yes!!" as I will have the boys more as a certainty, and there is nothing more I like than having them around.. We have started some little "traditions", and we always call our weekends together "mans weekend" and they/we love it!!..

The other part of me is a bit cynical (for want of a better word) about a few things though..

This part is telling me I should say no.. This is where the "I look after them all week" comment comes in.. With the way it was said (tone etc), W MAY be run off her feet with them and needs more downtime.. This is where I am thinking that she needs to have the consequences of her decision to leave shown to her..

Another reason is the money comment.. It is pretty obvious that her life is a bit harder than she thought it would be financially.. I don't help her out financially for anything not kid related any more, and to this comment I didn't even mention helping.. It was up to her to reach out to me.. It ties in with the kids as when they are there obviously it means more food etc..

Funny point on the above reason.. She has mentioned that she doesn't ask OM for money to borrow etc.. That could be taken a few ways!!..

Another thing.. She has had 4-5 solid months to offer me something like this.. Why now??..

My last and least "No" reason is that I see it would give her and OM more "alone" time on the weekends.. Once again, she needs to see the actions of her actions..


With all the other developments of late (spew, anger etc), something is fundamentally changing in my sitch, and I honestly think she needs to see the full result of her actions..

Hard thoughts!!.. Anyone got an idea??..