Honest question time. Would love everyone's feedback. At what point do you accept your spouse's "I don't want to work on this/be married/be with you." As truth and just, for lack of better words, just set them free?
As far as I understand, it's from the moment they first say it. In DB at least, it's all about setting them free and working on ourselves. Letting them figure out their problems and see if they come back. That's detachment. That's leaving the door open. The road paved and smooth.
At that point, it doesn't mean that you take over control to make it happen. Those who don't want a D will let the WAS push the paperwork, but not stop it.
I know that there's been much back in forth in your sitch. It shouldn't change the fact that you have let go. You've seen the picinic and castle analogy that goes around these boards? If not search for "picnic" and you should find it easily. It's about not getting overenthusiastic when they show interest, until they show real commitment.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
