Complex #4 - D talk started / Detaching continues

[Complex]

Things are starting to become VERY real. W told me today there is absolutely nothing I can do to stop this divorce. She is going to tell her dad and mom next week when I'm gone for work.
She was upset that I said I'm not going to move out and that I want to stay here. She is trying to argue with me that she's the bread giver etc and is afraid I want to screw her over with an attorney. I assured her I am not up for any arguments or a fight and want this to do the right way. That I don't have hard feelings and hope she doesn't have any either.
She is kind of blaming me for not living up to what I promised her. She knows she did things the wrong way too, but she just doesn't love me anymore. I agreed with most of what she said. She has a very good idea of what went wrong and all that, I don't see her being confused. And I agree with almost all her believes...I even agree the marriage doesn't make sense the way it is and that we need to grow as people first before we can have a true fulfilling relationship.

It's hard to describe, she's just SO aware of everything, the whole circumstances. She even tells me things like "focus on yourself...become the person where I look at you in a few years like 'damn why did I leave this guy'".
She's completely turning DBing around!!!?!? I wonder if she knows I'm here or so. It's weird.
Did anyone experience sth like this? Could she be knowing about this site?

It feels like I'm the idiot now. I actually really understand her and I feel like she's right with sooo many things. But this can't be it...I'm not the one who fell out of love and did all this...I'm confused