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[Calibri]

Ganb8te- pecan you recommend the book in a way that won't get your post edited?

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Honest question time. Would love everyone's feedback. At what point do you accept your spouse's "I don't want to work on this/be married/be with you." As truth and just, for lack of better words, just set them free?

I'm struggling with this, so very hard this weekend. I know I don't want this. I know H has tons of issues: people pleasing, lying to avoid confrontation, a horrific childhood, etc. I know if we put the work in, learned to communicate, learned other things, and kept his toxic mother out of the R we might have a shot. (yes, I realize this is control, and projecting, and everything else that is negative about me. Just roll with it.)

from the beginning of this H has been pretty consistent. "I don't want to work on it peppered with half assed attempts back to I don't want to work on it to January's big show of "working on it" back to "I don't want to work on it, thank you for your understanding. "

At what point do you just let it go? At what point can't you no longer fight the tides? At what point do you just accept defeat and say, "well, it's not going to work" and move on.

The reality is, and Vanilla hit the nail on the head and so did Zelda: he's got lots of work to do. Years of work, most likely. Do I go dark? (Technically, we are on darkish day 3?) do I give it awhile and reappear?

Did I give this my best shot? No, I'm woman enough to admit it. But I'm also woman enough to admit that perhaps he doesn't need or want another shot.

Thoughts?