The awakening of me Part 3

[mleigh4]

Night 3 of move out weekend:

S and I hung out most of the day. I want to make sure he is as well as possible for the school week. The day passed by with no word from H. About 4:00 he TM asking If S wanted to go to his place for a bit. We had been playing outside with the hose, giving dog a bath, so S was a little cold and I was getting him a warm bath ready. So I let H know and had S call him so they could talk. S said maybe he would go over later. I know S and that is code for no.

Some background. H has always somewhat alienated himself from us. Playing board games, playing in the backyard, going for walks, so many things over the years. H really never participated with us, always had something more important to do. So over time, S and I are super close and he and H, not so much. I know without a doubt H loves S very much and yearns to be closer with him, he just doesn't know how. To me it's simple, but H just doesn't get it and gets very annoyed if I try to talk with him about it so I shut up a while ago.

Anyhow, I actually felt bad. Pictured H home alone wanting to spend some time with S. I know, my empathy hits overdrive. And a boy needs his dad, I support it 100% So I TM H that if he needed to pick up more stuff here, I could make sure S was ready so he could take him to his place for a bit. H replied yes, that sounded good. That was at 4:00. We don't hear again from him until 6:30. He calls to ask if S wanted to go over for a bit. No joke. Didn't we already go over this??? Never mind he had said he wanted the 3 of us to go to dinner the other night. I knew, just knew, lips were a flappin. So I told him it was getting kind of late and he mentioned that maybe S wanted to stay night with him so again I put S on the phone and S told H not tonight, maybe a different night. So they decided H would pick him up from school tomorrow and have dinner, but H has an early meeting Tuesday morning so he would come back home. S said OK.

So H asked to talk to me and we went over plan. I told H we need to get a schedule in place and ease S into it as he gets used to H's new place and H agreed. I don't think it's a good idea to keep asking S if he wants to go over, that's too much for a 7 year old. I also talked to S briefly that we will get a schedule in place like we had before because it's important he spend time with his dad.

So there you have it. I survived the weekend, yay for me! H is already being MR. Flakey, but that was expected so no worries here. It's Taco Night!