KGirl - one year later con't

[KGirl]

Well, I bit the bullet and sent the friend request this morning. Then promptly remembered why I HADN'T done it earlier (the whole two last names thing.. I did change it so it wasn't two separate names - example: it no longer displays as K Smith (K Johnson), but rather K Johnson Smith so it's a little less obvious, but it's still awkward). But lo and behold he accepted my request this afternoon! I must not be too creepy and he must remember me!

On the downside, H started texting me about the paperwork. I find some of his responses questionable. For example, on the financial disclosure he says his L told him it was fine to write that the value of all the household items was "unknown" and then write "divided equally based on agreement of the parties", rather than writing out values for clothes, electronics, etc. like the form suggests. I'm not sure about this but the L would know more than I do about what's acceptable, right? Unless he was just told to write this on what he provides the L, and something else would be submitted to the court.. but you'd think the L would want to know the value to know what to put on the actual submission? *sigh*. I tried to ask him questions about the court-provided form and he didn't know what I was talking about, he hadn't even looked at it, only the one his L told him to fill out instead. While I could hire a lawyer to help me with this I don't think it's worth it to pay hundreds of dollars an hour for someone to tell me how to fill out a few rows on a form, for property that's already divided and inconsequential anyway. As my friend said, "I'm sure they've seen people fill this stuff out way worse than how you'll fill it out."

He also said his lawyer said he could take up to 5 years to pay me for my part of the house. I said I'm not fond of that idea, maybe we can do 1-2 years or he can take out a loan, but I do not want to drag this out for that long. He said he understood and also did not want this to drag out that long, and he'd see what he could do to pay me the money as quickly as possible. Then he had to go to snow blow before the Super Bowl (so why start a difficult conversation via text if you have to leave in 20 min? I don't know. Whatevs).