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[Sotto]

Hi Edz. Glad you had a good day. It all sounds pretty positive to me. Your W has clearly seen the changes in your R with S. So much so, that now she's concerned about being the bad guy in all of this. Great that there may be some more flexibility in time you spend with him too....lovely to maybe have some midweek time.

Also good that your W and you are able to touch on R, and the convo goes ok - even when you state your boundary, which your W doesn't like. Sounds like you managed to keep up the good PMA, despite touching on some pretty personal stuff.

All that said, your W isn't making any moves 'back towards' as such. But I also get a sense that she doesn't want to completely lose you either. And maybe that's where this reaction to the boundary comes in. She doesn't (yet?) want 'back in' - but she also doesn't want you moving on and meeting someone else - she'd like you still to be great friends and be able to come spend the day, be on the couch under the rug etc. If you D and you meet someone else, all that stops. And from what you say, she finds that prospect a difficult one.

Now, whilst it has been a good day, remember the ebbs and flows. It may well be that she pulls back again now. The 'thing" may still be in the mix. And it may be confusing to have talked like you did etc. So, important to maintain that degree of detachment, and your own steadiness if this happens.

When are you off to see the gyms this week? I had a nice few hours with the parents today. Mum has severe dementia and my Dad looks after her full time. Spending time with the pair of them is never dull! Then back here for a few hours and off to aerobics this pm. Nice day.

Chin up Edz....you're doing great! :-)