Dbing seems counterintuitive to what you think you should be doing at times.
Here's the deal. You are too early into this to think that you are going to see any real changes from her. She needs to see consistent changes from you over time to believe they are real.
This thing isnt linear. It just isnt. It goes up and down and around...so do your feelings when in it.
So, you will have days when you feel positive and days when you feel not so positive...its what happens and its ok. The trick is not to live in the negative. That doesnt serve anyone well.
You need to nicely ask her sister not to tell you about the facebook stuff. That is just crazy making. Because the truth is you have no idea what's really going on. You then make up these stories in your head that could be true...or not, ya know?
The thing is that you have decided to stand. It is a way to honor your wife and your marriage. How long you do, is up to you.
I will tell you that if you do the work, you will not regret you did. If you make the changes you need to, if you become who you were meant to be, you wont.
I have two questions for you Do you love your wife? Is she worth you fighting for her?
I am not saying you should do this forever because you shouldnt. I am not telling you how long you should because that is an individual choice.
I am saying that the fact that you found this site shows me that you want in.
But a quick fix this isnt. An easy road...nope, not that either. A guarantee...no.
What it is, though, is an amazing opportunity for you.
The whole being too nice thing. Thats an individual choice, too.
In my opinion should you always be available? No. Because you are too busy GAL, right?
So, you dont have to always answer the phone. You dont have to answer every text right away.
She does need to see you moving forward because you are, ya know?
