Strong EA after 2yrs M - trying to detach. #3

[susana4]

Hm ya, if these feelings come back at all is the question.
I mean people think love is gone, but it's false. I read if love once really existed, it's never going completely away. It's just covered. But once we cared for someone that much, we just close our heart over it. It makes sense.
And sometimes the love doesn't fit in our lives anymore and we just can't be with the other person anymore,...it just doesn't work out.

I suppose that's more a philosophical question than a DB one, but I do think if someone fell in love with you once, then of course they can again. But just as you don't fall out of love all at once, you don't fall in love all in one go, it's a process.

But IMO when you are married, it's a long way to find this out, bc we made a life long commitment and we can't just give up like our WAS are. Question of course is how long do we have to try??? I don't have an answer for that.

I think that's entirely a personal question.. I think what it says in the DR book if I recall correctly is that you and you alone will know when you're ready to give up trying.

To work on myself, my character...
I hope therapy will help me..it's hard to get over yourself and the emotional immaturity by just reading books, but it helps. And accepting and loving myself, for who I am!!!. GAL...a complete one, where W isn't included and doesn't have to be.

I think it's not just reading books but putting into practice what is learnt from them that's most important. After all, we can't expect to become experts at ice skating just from reading, the only thing that will do that is going out and practising ice skating every day. Same with emotional issues.