Remember, us guys do have that inherent "rubber band" thing anyway (read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"). So it could be nothing more than that. Also, anyone who's cake-eating is going to pout and pull back if you stop being their dutiful backup plan, too.
Men are natural pursuers (the other part of the rubber band) . . . leave him be and be mysterious and all "Hey, this wasn't want I wanted, but I realize now that I'll survive" upbeat (without being annoyingly so).
So I've just read MAFMWAFV this weekend and WOW does the rubber band thing describe my husband to a T! Especially when it talks about how men lose themselves by feeling the woman's needs/feelings/etc and he can lose his sense of self if he doesn't pull away (this is *exactly* what H said as part of BD - well except that he didn't seem to recognise why it had happened, he just said he'd lost his sense of self, and that he felt overwhelmed and responsible for my feelings). Also when it talks about how men might be scared to pull away because they witnessed their mother rejecting their father, and these men might be afraid to be alone. (H absolutely refuses to be alone! I think the thought of spending even a couple of days alone terrifies him.)
Men are natural pursuers (the other part of the rubber band) - One thing I find a little strange, and I'm not sure what to make of it, is H had never asked out anyone before me. His previous Rs all started with the girl pursuing him and asking him out.
Me 28 / H 28 M 1 / T 2.5 BOMB 12-3-14 "I don't feel like myself any more" Still living together, separate rooms.
