Seperated and she is with someone - I'm desperate

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Thank you Sandi. That is good advice and I will really try this next week (I don't have the little ones for a week starting tomorrow night) to get out and do some things. I need to develop some hobbies as it's always been about my family for me. I will definitely look in the calendar of events for the week and see what options I have. I'd like to meet people as admittedly I'm not one who likes doing things by myself but I know that also has to change.

3 days NC as of this morning. My FIL just stopped by to see kids and I. We don't talk about it and we are still close. It's hard seeing him sometimes as it makes me think of his daughter and what I would like but I appreciate his kindness to me and the kids and want him to feel welcome here. He may stop by later to watch part of the Super Bowl with us. This probably seems like an odd thing but he had a similar thing happen to his marriage and I know he feels very bad about the situation. I don't know if he knows about OM but it's just a matter of time and not my place to tell him.

Anyway...typing this has for some reason made me sad and cry. I am really trying to hold it together and close off my thoughts and feelings about her but I know it's a long process. Thank you for your guidance.