I think everyone goes through funk phases, if you didn't, I'd worry about you. Everyone gets affected by OPS (other people's sh1t/story/etc), you're human. I used to have to take breaks from the forum and re-group.
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It seems like some people who I think are doing awesome at DBing...in the end, we cant control anything and the sitch's that seem to show the most promise, don't always work out. Its not in our hands.And I don't know how to deal with that.
You control yourself, and your side of the street.
Untimately, yes, things are in a higher power's hands, but my belief is that we are never given more than we can handle.
Standing, imo, first teaches us what we are made of, then it teaches us who we are, then gives us the opportunity to become who we were meant to be.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but you are used to being in control, that you set your mind to something and you do the needful to complete your mission...I mean, you ARE a Ranger...that's just what you do.
I get that. Very few times in my life have I failed at achieving something I set my mind, heart, soul, to. It took me a long-a$$ time to learn and accept the difference between what I controlled in reality, versus what I "thought" I controlled. Tough, and humbling, stuff.
How do you deal with that? I set up 3 month check-ins with myself...that no matter what, I was standing until day 91, then I would re-assess the sitch, myself. What do you think would work for you?
This isn't a surgical strike, it's a dig-in campaign.
I know a few people over in MLC-land, from my "class", who had reconciles...one right at divorce signing... we don't know, none do. And that is tough, we humans seem wired to want to know the future, and that is impossible.
Want to deal with this? Just focus on today, maybe on tomorrow some...Decide, just for today, what you are going to do, for YOU, for your sitch...decide that today is not the day you quit, maybe tomorrow, or next week, but not today.
You decide to accept that you only control you, you only control your actions, you only control your words. Make them match up to the man you are, the man you want to be, and the man who 10 years from looks back at this time, regardless of the outcome, and stands tall, secure that he did the right thing and everything possible. And that is valuable, buddy, very valuable...
What say you?
Hang in there!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
