Thanks ladies. Pink. I have see what happened in your sitch but for me it's not so black and white. Your H was with OW bUt I still feel like it's not just guilt with him. Make sure there is a lot of guilt but also I have no doubt he is thinking about if he is doing the right thing or not. No one can walk away from a marriage with second thoughts unless there was abuse or something very serious going on

As regards OM my wife insists he is a good friend only and has convinced her sister , my L/C and everyone else but I find it very hard to accept.

Rppfl. No begging no pleading just what I typed. I don't think W wants to comeback now or maybe ever. I think she is lost and wants to try and new life It's not going great but after 4 months of tears and upset she still is out of the house. Actions speak louder than words, etc

Toots. No expectations but maybe I'm letting hope creep back in. Both D10'and S16 hand side rails up but D16 is so erratic that he can get 3 strikes in a row and then gutter the rest


Thank you all for your input. Wish my W had half the character that you ladies posess.

Hugs to you all. Take care. Rd

Ps Typing this while chicken fillets in breadcrumbs cook and roast potatoes brown nicely !!!!