Spouse going through MLC, need support

[mleigh4]

Hi Amy. I am reading your posts and was there about this time last year. We truly understand and can relate to the emotions you are feeling. The only thing that helped me was to detach and Let go. I had to let go of my Husband and my marriage because the grief and pain of what was happening was taking its toll on me. I got down to 93 pounds, was constantly distracted and I knew I had to be the one in control here, for my son.

This is no easy process, it takes time. You will have your good days and bad days, but I promise you, it gets better. And as you see the strength inside of you come out, you will get stronger and stronger.

The first step is accepting this for what it is. You have no control over your husband and this is not about you, as much as it feels like it is based on things he says. MLC is much deeper than marriage problems and only he can work through this. The best thing you can do is step back and let him go, so his work can begin.

Keep reading up on MLC and depression. What also helped me was looking up information and inspirational quotes on letting go. Aside from this, spend time with supportive friends, do things you enjoy and pamper yourself. This is a long bumpy road and there is no quick fix. There are amazing people on this board who have been through it and can offer great advise. So keep posting, vent here, cry here and know we are all here to support you!