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[Vanilla]

Sounds like S is becoming himself! Kids often talk in cars, found that out when I was fostering. They have an adult captive to themselves, it is warm, the car engine is soothing and it's easy. I always turn down radio and listen and no soothing but soft voice tones. S is confiding and if you want it to continue you will need to be very confidential and if you need to talk to W then tell S so and report back to him that you have done so. When you talk to W, I suggest you discuss S concerns from your view with minimum disclosure. W will then say dad is concerned about X would you like to talk to me about it. W will have to do that as you have disclosed your feelings not those of S. In addition kids can be telling you what you want to hear. Ask open questions and have a giggle with S if you find he is doing so. Oh and lots of hugs, RD is a great role model here with closeness as appropriate with his DS. I know that you know all of this Edz so apologies if I am remarking, intended as sharing.

Just V take on it. H1 and I fostered troubled teens mainly from 10 upwards and H1 younger siblings. H1 was a natural with kids and would have loved a large family (with fostered kids too). Had almost 12 years of fostering with 4 or 5 kids a year, sometimes for as short a period as 3 days but up to 6 months, kids then moved to permanent foster homes or adopted. we were a 'stop gap', some wonderful kids and some with issues, mostly confused or bewildered children needing a little respite, food and more often than you think hygiene. The odd child with greater problems needing special help and foster carers. I worked so was more detached, not a traditional mum and dad and we were young. The training was good too, a little formal and rather waffly but solid stuff and we had our own life support officer. A very lovely caring lady whose job was to help us come to terms with our issues (not the kids). Effectively parenting classes for non parents. Funny how this brings up old memories as fresh as paint and smelling of today not yesterday.

Oh and hugs, some kids no matter how old need hugs. Some need to sit next to you still as you read or watch TV others like to rough and tumble. Others, more spikes will only hug if you ask " I need a hug" and eventually they ask do you need a hug? I am crying as I write full of happy memories. It is strange how tiredness makes V sentimental.

What is S love language?

I believe I asked before but my notes do not note the rely

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